Cultivating Calm

  • 06 Mar
    Placebo = Brain Power!

    Placebo = Brain Power!

    People are cynical about altnerative treatments, and even when you have proven results, they may say ‘oh, that’s just a placebo effect!’ OK, fine, but its still effective! You keep saying ‘just’ the placebo effect, but what IS the ‘placebo effect?’

    In nearly every clinical study that’s ever been conducted, some people will be healed even with no treatment. They create a group called a control group and give them a sugar pill or other PLACEBO to make them think they are getting a treatment.

    So now we have two groups, the people getting a treament, and those getting placebo. In both groups, some people will heal.

    We focus on and study those healed by the drug, but I might suggest this approach is bass ackwards. We should be studying those who experienced healing without a drug. HOW ARE PEOPLE HEALING WITH JUST THEIR MINDS? That is what we need to figure out! Because its not just about ‘my back feels better’ subjective stuff. People have actually REGROWN HAIR simply because THEY BELIEVE they were taking Rogain, when really they were taking a sugar pill. This seems like emphatic evidence that we can heal ourselves with our mind, and it’s been proven over and over again! The how is the thing…

    Psychologists have studied factors that contribute to the placebo effect. They’ve shown the power of engaged healers, human touch, and other factors that could influence the perception of healing, and also real measurable healing. Yet we don’t have cuddle clinics, and most of my western doctors do not touch me during a visit, and are about as engaged as a hooker in Dubai. Guess there’s no money to be made there, no big business to promote that so it dies.

    My point here is that many people have experienced healing through placebo alone. It is not up for debate, it is scientific fact.  I think we need a new word to describe this phenomenon. One that doesn’t compare this self contained healing to drug effectiveness, and describe the drug as ineffective. The connotation of ‘placebo effect’ is NO effect, when really its a powerful effect we ought to study as thoroghly as we do drugs.

    We need a word to make the idea stick.  A word that is catchy and popular and conveys a very common idea: people CAN heal with the power of their mind alone. This is not a new idea, but that word ‘placebo’ takes away the magic! Its describing the phenomenon in terms of a drug not working instead of a brain and body  that IS working. So, I’m ready to hear suggestions!  For me, I think I like the term mind meds. Or brain gains. How about mental medicine?! What are your suggestions?

     

     

     

    By Barbara Byrge Cultivating Calm Health
  • 26 Jan
    A Little Naiveté

    A Little Naiveté

    I once asked someone who had accomplished a great thing  ‘what advice would you give to someone who wants do what you’ve done, what do you think they’ll need?’ and her answer was ‘A little naivete! If I had known from the beginning how hard it was going to be,  I never would have done it.’ 

    At the time I was a mid-twenties career broad type. I had a degree, worked in technology, and was president of the Professional Women’s Association and I was quite frankly  shocked. Was she really preaching ignorance as a good thing? How would I even take that advice. ‘Just start’ she said. Well, fast forward to late thirties Barbara, and I really get what she meant. I mean deep down in my soul do I resonate with the idea that you do not need to know how tough your row is going to be to start hoeing. There have been so many dreams I stopped dreaming because they just weren’t practical, and I finally listened to what everyone said.

    ‘I want to climb Mount Everest!’ someone shouts. 

    And we all say  ‘What? It is too hard, too cold, and you could die!’ 

    Why? Those things are all true, sure. It is hard cold, and you could die! Why do we instinctively caution others and dissuade them from risk and poor decisions? Close relationships ok, it affects us directly, but we do this with even strangers, coworkers and conversations on public message boards and in many cases where it really wouldn’t affect us at all.  What’s with the Hermoinie complex? Is it a know-it-all thing, or maybe a hero thing ( ‘They were going to die, but my words of caution saved them!’)? Perhaps it is because we see ourselves as being good mentors, so we must ment!?  Is it because we think they don’t know the risks, or won’t find out? I mean, we live in the google age, my assumption is that people do not need me as a reference guide. Why do we assume our fear is appropriate and something we should convince others of? Perhaps we need to flip that record, and automatically think of all the ways their risky plan COULD succeed. All the lucky and wonderful things that may come as a result!

    I like to think it is because we have so much love and empathy for these strangers, that if they hurt, we suffer along with them.  So many of us do this, me included, but I’m changing that! We  just have to let our lovies mess up sometimes!  I’m not going to let you walk off the deep end, but if you jump in the freezing cold pool, maybe, just maybe it is not MY job to tell you you are going to get sick, catch a cold, and die. Maybe if I jump in, and make that bad decision, you could just find me a towel since you know so much about how cold I’ll be. Don’t bubble wrap me from the suffering, just help me band aid up afterward. I’ll make some mistakes, but some things have to be learned the hard way. In Liberia they say ‘if you can’t hear, you can feel!’

    So if I, or your kid, or someone you know starts on an big challenging task, like climbing a huge mountain, or going back to school, or getting pregnant at 40, or walking the journey of a million miles, or opening a special school for children who learn differently, don’t hit them with the knee jerk ‘you’re feet will get tired’ and ‘there’s too much paperwork.’ Lets make a conscious choice to encourage our people, even though we know their path will have struggles.  Because believe me, they know they will have struggles.  Of course there are loads of cases where its appropriate to caution our loved ones. We do it daily, and its correct much of the time. I’m just suggesting that there are times when giving a long list of reasons why things won’t work out, or listing every potiential pitfall along the road,  is not the best idea, and asking us all to think about what my wise friend Janet told me about accomplishing great things. That when you begin, you should do so with a little naiveté!

    By Barbara Byrge Cultivating Calm Happiness Health
  • 21 Jan
    Words Rock! Rock the Words!

    Words Rock! Rock the Words!

    Writing things on rocks, or artwork, or anything at all is a very powerful neurolinguistic device! It keeps the word and concept booted up somewhere in your brain. Writing words like ‘luck’ on a rock is a great idea, because we seek what we find, and I believe if you look for good luck you find it! It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Its fun to try this out on your kids too. But that’s another blog post.

    This post is a vignette about my former white board and what it taught me about words you see in writing staying in your brain forever. Visual memory + written word = powerful brain candy.

    ‘There is a snapware thief…

    in the building…

    somewhere’

    I worked at a place where we all had whiteboard inside our cubicles fashioned so everyone walking by could see. The above is the phrase my coworker had written on her board for months. You can’t look at a word without reading it, so I read them. And I processed them, four or five times a day, everyday when I’d walk past her cubicle to get to mine.  ‘There is a snapware theif… in the buidling.. somewhere’ One night I was sitting on my couch and found myself muttering ‘there is a snapware thief… in the building… somwhere’ (I always paused at the ellipses while mentally reading it). What was happening to me? I didn’t want to pay attention to this, but there it was, clogging up my brainspace. And so I got pissed that her word worm had permanently crept into my brain!

    Everytime I walked by it I felt bad. I felt bad for her dishes, and bad that i had to suffer along with her, even though the dish incident actually occurred before I was employed there. So I finally confronted her. ‘Shirley! Why don’t you write something new on your board!’ and a spirited convo ensued about how she was still genuinely upset, many moons later, about how someone had stolen her dishes. I learned a few things from this conversation. 1) snapware is tupperware, its expensive and those who love it can’t do without it 2) some people can hold a grudge a really long time 3) getting her to erase this was not going to be a one conversation thing.

    So I decided to control what I could, which is what was written on my own board. My cubicle was on the way to the bathroom so I felt it was a community service to gift my coworkers with some awesome ear worms. So I would write things like ‘Smiles inc’ and guess what, people would smile at me! One day I wrote ‘Don’t Worry Be Happy!’ which is of course also a catchy song lyric. I  noticed things. Fun coworkers would sing or whistle when they walked by. The old guy who talked your ear off would be on the topic of  happiness (rather than who left dishes in the sink, etc). On bad days I’d write lyrics that seemed upbeat but were actually secret cries for help. This also amused me and helped me get out of a fun. One day I wrote ‘I was looking for a job, and then I found a job!’ which is another song lyric (Morrissey, yay!) which follows with ‘and heaven knows I’m miserable now.’ This is kind of an inside joke with me and a friend, about how some people just can’t be happy in any circumstance! It was a reminder to myself that I’d really wanted this job, so don’t be a downer. It also just made me happy to be salty for a minute. Most people thought I was happily working that day, and I totally found two new tribe member coworkers when they gave me the wink and the nod as they passed by. I handed out candy too. Highly recommended activity for keeping happy at work. Or anywhere really. Just hand out candy like a mom with a purse.

    Finally Shirley asked me what was up with my board, and all the daily whitticism.  I told her the truth about her snapware earworm, and to be honest it is still permanently etched into my brain. Hence this article. I offered to buy her a complete new set of snapware if she erased it. She finally had mercy on my mortal soul and erased her board! I quit that job some months later, and don’t have a white board anymore. So now I write things on rocks.

    I have rocks all over the porch and garden that say ‘well calm’ to remind me that we heal when calm, and to not get too fight or flighty. Its also a pun for ‘welcome’ and I find brain teasers like this get stuck in my head even more! They are shiny and fascinating and whimsical. Some of my favorites are ‘Zen and Zeal, Lovey Lucky, and Do You.’ Others are thoughtfully artsy, like ‘Crave Brave’ and ‘Health Wealth’, with health over the wealth, which of course lends itself to metaphor. I paint these rocks bright happy colors and gift them to friends. Sometimes I let them choose what they want to attract into their lives, other times I will have made one especially for them, to attract what I think they would enjoy.

    One of my all time favorites is ‘will work 4 love’. When we love others, we do WORK for them, its the ultimate love letter! Perhaps we go to work and get money to house them, perhaps we clean and cook for them, or drive them around, wipe their chin when they have mustard, but most people do the work they do for the ones they love, without people to love and work for life is empty. I think all of our labor should be ‘labors of love’ working to strengthen who and what we do like in this world. And with that I sign off to grab a paint brush for my new rock ‘Labor for Love’

    So go write some stuff down in an artsy visual way, place it around where you are everyday, and the seeds for your new brain candy will be planted! You will scan the universe fulfiling the prophecies you declare! So go ahead, conjure up some joy, some art, some work, whatever floats your boat! Find a thought that mkes you smile, write it on some rocks, and enjoy the yummy thoughts!